Why is my Father such a Jerk?

I am 29 years old and recently quit my job for Disney Cruise Lines because I hated the environment. With no money, I was allowed to move back home to my parents house, who let me live in a room on the second floor rent free and also added me to their family plan. It's nice of them, but I cannot stand my fahter! He is a 63 year-old man who recently retired from his curating job, and NEVER LEAVES the house! Every morning I wake up, it doesn't matter what time it is- I hear him clearing his throat in the kitchen. "Ehhhhh ummmm." "Ehhhh emmmmmm." It's like- dude shut the **** up! It's so annoying.



Currently a new cruise company has offered me a job on their line. My parents were happy with this since the start date is soon. However, I just got offered another interview with a better cruise company. The problem is their interview date is after my start date begins with the former cruise line. Because I liked how the new cruise line sounded, I rejected my job offer with the former. When I came in the kitchen (where else?) and told my Dad the good news, he got very upset and scolded me- telling me I should take the job with the cruise line that pays less money and has a worse position.



"Dude, it pays less money!" I shouted at him, now even more bothered by his irritating presence.



"You take what they offer you. And don't complain." This from a man whose first job out of college WAS his career, and paid well.



"You never had to take **** jobs like me old man! I ******* hate you! Just die already, ugh!"



"GET OUT OF MY HOUSE!!!" My father screamed at me, clearing his throat afterwards.



So my Mom now is pissed at me, telling me I had no right to talk to my judgmental father like that. And they want me to move to my Aunt's place until I get a job. I told her "Fine honey, you deal with the annoying man in the kitchen!" So here's my beef:



1) Why was my father so upset with my grown decision? I'm an adult, after all and this is MY life. I know for certain the new cruise company will hire me and I liked their benefits better.



2) Why does my father never leave the house? I don't give a **** if he's retired, you should still be active. But 95% of the time, he's home. It's so annoying.Why is my Father such a Jerk?
Simple solution move out until you can muster the respect that your father deserves. You either suck it up or live on the streets. Stop being a big baby.
1)very true you have the right to make your own opinions your your own adult.

2)hes a lazy mother f***erWhy is my Father such a Jerk?
I think ur a troll..if not a very imature almost 30 yr old
I think he's mad at your decision because he wants your *** out.If you hate him then man up and move out. Your parents don't owe you anything at this point in life. It was kind of them to take you in and add you to their health plan when you had nothing. Your dad is finally retired and if he wants to never leave his house then that's his choice. He's worked long and hard and deserves to do what he wants. You on the other hand are a house guest at this point. You don't pay rent, they are paying for your health insurance, food, etc. If you don't like it then it's really simple. Leave.
鈾?First you were offered a job and a start date, meaning you had a job. The next interview (cruise) may not actually offer you a job, they might pick someone else, then what? you still jobless. Also, your dad earned and worked his way to retirement, he can do what ever he wants in his own home, he has earned that right, to clear his throat and stay home all day.
1. hes upset because you turned down a job while living in HIS house and eating HIS food and using HIS utilities

2. he is an adult he can come and go as he pleases or not if he pleases
Parents want what is best for their children, they imagine that their kids will go to college, graduate, get married, have a family, and have a career. That's obviously not what you did and he may find that upsetting. You mentioned that your father is 63 years old, that generation stuck with one job and eventually retired. The newer generations stick with one company an average of five years and then move because they offer better benefits, etc.

Your father obviously wants you to get a job, and he sees the cruise line that offered you the job as a sure thing, while the second cruise line you have an interview with is not a sure thing, even if you think it is.

That being said, your mother has every right to be upset with you. From the sounds of it you treated your father with extreme disrespect. Even if you are 29 years old, you are back under their roof, so it goes back to what it was like when you were 15/16/18 their house their rules.

Now as for your father who cares if he puts around the house all day, it's his retirement he can spend it how he wants. Why are you around the house all day? Your 29 years old. You should be active, and possibly finding somewhere else to live or a new job.
well yeh i agree with u a little its your choice, but what 29yr old still uses the word dude? i also think you should not talk to your parents like that you are lucky to have them!!!