first, were going swimming at my house, then out to browse the city, then were going to benihanas for dinner, then to a park to eat strawberries, and i plan on giving her a b-day gift thats a diamond necklace. any girls want to give me some advice please?Any tips for a nervous guy?
just be yourself and have fun
first of calm down. there is no need to be nervous..she agreed to go out with you and that means she show interest. Play it cool and you'll do fine...she really like the necklace=].Any tips for a nervous guy?
gin and tonic
or
vodka and cranberry
Simple. To calm your heebie-jeebies, imagine you are spending the day with someone who, one day far in the future, (after many years of wedded bliss) will slit your throat open ear-to-ear. Yes, she is going to sever your carotid arteries, and there will be nothing you can do about it.
Contemplating this, will give you a wonderful calmness and zen-like detachment. This person you lust for, is going to murder you; nevertheless, you will have many happy years together. Do you see the delicate balance? Breathe . . . that's it
calm down
Sounds like you got this under control and dont need us but if your giving diamonds I suggest that you buy condoms too. and good luck have fun
Bad sign...
you're nervous because you're putting way to much expectations (diamonds?) on this date AND you're trying way too hard! And it sounds like a first date too... ouch! No wonder your nervous dude...
I'm not saying she won't have a good time... any girl would, and I'm sure you're a nice (and generous) guy - but the dating game is totally different from the buddy-buddy world.
Chances are she's also going to be nervous too... because of the pressure you're putting on her. Especially if its a first date...
My advice
Test her level of ATTRACTION to you first, THEN ask her out... always guage for interest, before going out on any formal date. Next time you're having coffee or drinks either with her alone or with a group of friends, when you find a private moment.. or good opening whisper something flirtatious into her ear, hold her hands or waist, even a playful kiss would do... Be discreet, and make sure it's blatant enough so she immidately switches out of friend mode. Watch how she reacts... or responses, if she tries to shrug it off, play it down, or doesn't take you serious... you're definitely "only friends". If she acts negatively then appologize, and quickly find a reason to leave.. (she'll get the message, but she'll still never be into you) .. IF she responds positively or encouragingly or better yet - starts to reveal her true feelings about you too.. then you know you have that chemistry to begin with. Just don't try to turn it into a date on the spot, keep it playful - honest - and brief... call each other back another time to set up a real date. That way on your first real date both of you would be more relaxed, and less guarded around each other... and more willing to explore a realtionship.
Secondly, when dating - always build up the toys and affection gradually... it makes no sense to go to the fanciest restaurant and the the most exclusive bar and give the fanciest gift on the first night... or every date... those sorts of things should be rewarded sparingly instead of being her treatment. Most women feel pressured whenever a guy spends a lot of money.. or is trying too hard to make a good impression. Just remember, that kind of attention can be unwanted or even a turnoff if the moment (or person) isn't right for them............
Good luck
dam! shes a lucky girl...lol, dont matter if ur nervous, she's got diamonds! a girls best friend =) Good Choice
sounds real nice just be yourself have a great time
Relax, have some fun and most importantly BE YOURSELF.
Well if you really like this girl just be yourseft, and also treat her like a pricess.
Relax, be yourself. That's why she likes you, bc you're you. Does she know how you feel? If not maybe you should tell her but let her know that you're still her friend even if she isn't in love with you.
Lay off the caffeine!
Wow, diamond necklace on first date....well I dunno your girl man, but I wouldn't give that unless I knew her REALLY well. Other than that, just be yourself, your worst mistake would be acting like something you're not.
You will be disappointed you will be disappointed. Because you are nervous. It had happened to someone. When you are frustrated you will make many ways to yourself and to girls deal with you. You frustrate someone by beginning of frustration of yourself.
Okay, you're giving her a diamond necklace on your FIRST date, am I correct?
That's a little scary if it's your first. If not, GO FOR IT! Girls love diamonds, they're so shiny...!
dont worry the date you just described is PERFECT ;-)
Don't be nervous!! If she is your best friend, there is no need to be nervous. Have fun and be yourself. Breathe!!!
Damn, that sounds like a nice time! Why are you nervous? I bet she loves you, and she'll love you even more after the date. Even if you weren't giving her a diamond necklace (which is amazing of you), how could she not love such a sweet guy as you? Lucky her! You have nothing to be nervous about, sweetie!
a stop at the drug store for TROJANS would be a thoughtful gesture
keep it cool
be yourself
dont worry about a thing ... with all that it will be great... you will be fine!
Wow! What a lucky girl she is to have a boyfriend like you. Just don't move too fast. That could be a real turn off. The good ole' fashion manners go a LONG way (open her door, pull out her seat to sit in, etc) . Just be yourself. I'm sure your charm will sweep her off her feet. Good Luck!
sounds like you're all set. honestly, dont ask for advice on what to say and how to act. being nervous is normal and you could spoil everything by trying to be different and by trying to make everything "perfect". just be yourself and let her see that you are nervous, she'll like that she makes you feel that way.
Try to relax. Does she know anything about how you feel for her? I have had guy friends that liked me more than a friend... but they were just a friend in my book. If she feels this way about you, she might feel odd when you give her the necklace... I sure would. Then again, she might feel the same way about you that you feel for her. I hope the best for you. Remember to relax and be yourself.
holy cr*%26amp;p youve really lined something up here. I think you should START the date with the diamonds. You are using the date to get to the necklace. The necklace deserves more than one date.
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